What to do when a loved one departs? How do we deal with the pain?

Jayme Bertolin
Thursday | October 02, 2014 | 5:00 PM

How many of us have already been through the situation of pain and suffering of no longer having a loved one by our side? How can we live with the separation? Where do we find the strength to cope?

Throughout our lives, relationships, whether intense or not, close, good and happy, mark our journeys, our personality, and leave their imprint. When a loved one dies, the feeling caused by the separation is extremely painful. Because we do not see family members and friends again, we have the sensation that they have ceased to exist or that they are far away from us, to the point of not being able to enjoy their presence any more.


Nevertheless, the Religion of God, of the Christ, and of the Holy Spirit1 understands that death is not the end of life, since the part that is eternal and Divine in each person continues to live. Comprising the individuality, the qualities, and the values of the human being, the spirit precedes the body and is constituted of the same creative essence as everything else: God, as Jesus, the Ecumenical Christ, the Divine Statesman, defended by affirming that “God is Spirit” (John 4:24) and by alerting that “He is not the God of the dead, but of the living. You are badly mistaken!” (Mark 12:27). In this way, the prospect of the eternity of life makes us understand that our friends, relatives, and loved ones who have passed through death did not experience an end, but rather a new beginning.

Further reading:
Article by writer Paiva Netto: Death is not the end

And therefore, seeing as they continue to live, the relationships and the ties continue to exist as well. All thoughts, prayers or feelings addressed to them are automatically received and can interfere either positively or negatively. That is why, although the feeling of loss and the pain of separation do not disappear entirely or immediately, they can and need to be overcome by us, thereby preventing indignation and the non-acceptance of the death from making our hearts embittered and causing great suffering to our loved one, who, in the spiritual world, feels the cries of our hearts in his Soul.

Yet, if negative thoughts have been sent with the aim of harming the un-incarnated being, and he, in turn, does not share the same thoughts, the spirit will not be affected and the hateful energies can rebound on the person who sent them. The President-Preacher of the Religion of Universal Love, José de Paiva Netto, explains: 

"Those whom we love never die, even if they are already in the Spiritual World. Many remain by our side, helping us; others may be in need of our prayers. Let us pray for them, so that when our time comes somebody will pray for us, and let us thank God for being the God of the living."2

Vivian R. Ferreira

Um espetáculo de devoção e fé emocionou peregrinos vindos de todo o Brasil e do mundo.

The answer to getting past and overcoming this difficult process is shown by the Religion of God, the ecumenical religion of Brazil and the world, in Charity as a powerful instrument for turning suffering and pain into good memories of our loved ones, transforming them into comforting ties of respect, love, and companionship. Once our attention to the pain has been set aside, our minds and hearts are able to breathe and gain the strength to move forward. In his book Como Vencer o Sofrimento [How to Overcome Suffering], Paiva Netto assures us: 

“Suffering does not weaken the Soul of a Being who is integrated with Goodness. On the contrary, the creature is raised to the compassionate bosom of His Creator. And there, even if on Earth, he will have warmth, because he will find the inextinguishable light of Divine Charity. For this reason, he who seeks death to find God is committing a great and painful mistake; beginning with the fact that He is also found within each and every one of us. Jesus revealed: ‘The Kingdom of God is within you’ (The Gospel of Christ according to Luke, 17:21).”

Let us, therefore, strengthen our Spirit and of those whom we love who are in the spiritual world through a moment of prayer, meditation, or an act of Goodness, wherever we may be; and let us continue on our earthly journey with the certainty that life goes on and so do we.

The Religion of the Third Millennium invites you, internet user, regardless of your belief or nationality, to include the name of those you would like to receive the good energies that come from prayer. The invitation also extends to registering the names of those who have already died but are still alive in Spirit, as the Religion of Universal Love argues.


Religion of God, of the Christ, and of the Holy Spirit — also called the Religion of the Third Millennium, and the Religion of Universal Love. This is the Ecumenical Religion of Brazil and the world.

Passage taken from the book Spiritualistic Guidelines of the Religion of God, of the Christ, and of the Holy Spirit, volume I, from the chapter There is no death in any part of the Universe, p. 185.

Version: Rob Dinham
Revision: Rosana Bertolin

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